Love receiving flowers, yes? (Not everyone. To an African friend (Ghana) they represent death in the house and an insult.)
But what do you do when someone comes to dinner with a huge bunch of gorgeous flowers and you are in the middle of introducing everyone to each other, of making sure they have a drink and their bags are carefully stowed and the nuts are being passed around? Flowers can be a bloody nuisance.
Do you stop, pull out the step ladder, reach for a vase, find the secateurs to trim the ends in the back shed, then clear a spot in the kitchen to arrange the flowers, ignoring everything else that’s going on?
An old French book on “le savoir-vivre” suggests one should never bring flowers. One should of course send them before or after the event when the hostess or better still the housemaid can receive them, and at leisure, arrange them.
Life doesn’t work like that for most of us. But what to do? Who wants to knock back flowers?
Hint / Life Hack
If you’re the giver, a just-opened rose from your garden picked on the way out is fine but keep the florist bunches for occasions other than lunch, party or dinner (or bring flowers already arranged in a planter or pot).
If you’re the receiver, make a bucket in the laundry part of your party preparations. If flowers arrive, admire them, thank the giver effusively and say “I’m looking forward to arranging these properly tomorrow.” Take the flowers away and put them in water in the bucket.
The following day, take your time to arrange them beautifully. Take a photograph of them on your phone and send this to the giver with a nice note.
How do you handle flowers?